The Pursuit of Happiness

 

As a kid I remember a lot of confusion regarding my emotions.  At times when I felt happy I simultaneously noticed a sort of underlying guilt, like it wasn’t quite completely true.  Likewise, when I felt extremely sad, I noticed this same underlying feeling of it not being completely real or authentic (though I’m certain I didn’t use that word!) 

 

Looking for answers I went to my father. “Dad?” I asked. “Sometimes when I’m really happy I feel guilty about it.  It’s like it’s not completely true.  So then I make myself sad.  But then when I’m sad I feel the same way, like I’m not really only sad.  I’m confused. How am I ’supposed’ to feel?”

 

“Happy,” he said.  “Son, you’re supposed to be happy.  We are all supposed to be happy.”  Years later, during a bout of bi-polar condition, he committed suicide. 

 

We live in a world that is infatuated with happiness.       

 

In fact, stop about anyone on the street and ask them to quickly list as many drawbacks as they can to “happiness,” and I predict that their response will be nothing more than a hollow stare.   It is the fantasy that runs our lives.

 

Most will do almost anything in an attempt to obtain it.  We run around buying yet more cloths we’ll never wear, change jobs, change relationships, change medications, change addictive substances.  All in an attempt to isolate and solidify an elusive happiness, disconnected from its balancing opposite emotion of sadness.    

 

We look and look to everything outside of us until we come across some self -help article that says, “Hey, look within!”  So we do.  If we are awake, aware and honest, we would see that happiness and sadness are magnificently balanced within us as well.  Could there be a bigger picture and perfection that we are overlooking and therefore not embracing?  Could this broader embrace contain within it a higher truth and deeper experience that’s waiting to be discovered?  Ever heard its call?  Might this deeper experience be calling you now?

 

I state this strongly and with absolute certainty:  Our infatuation with attaining perceived “happiness” is the very source of our perceived “sadness.”  Our striving for elation is the source of our depression.  Our addiction to pleasure is the very source of our pain. 

 

We’ll explore this in much more detail in further posts.  We’ll also give you strategies to not only break the cycle, but enter into a new understanding and experience of life that you will ultimately find to be much more profound, rewarding, and fulfilling.

 

Of course there are many definitions of “happiness.”  As many as there are definitions of “success” I would imagine.  Regardless, as long as we are preoccupied with the quest for such a state, we will never allow ourselves the possibility of awakening beyond it and into the much deeper truth of who and what we always already are.  In future articles, we will spend much time exploring what that is.  We will also share the exact steps you can take to personally discover and enter into this vastly more expanded and rewarding experience of life.

 

For now I pose the following question:

 

Why stop at happiness when we can open beyond it and into the deep truth of who and what we truly are?  In other words, in regards to the state of happiness, why stop there? 

 

There is something way beyond happiness that I would love to be your life’s experience, and I am deeply committed to sharing it with all those, and only those, who are ready.

 

Throughout this blog I will introduce you to something else.  We’ll have many posts on this “something.”  If you choose to embark upon this journey with me, my promise to you is that this will expand your mind and allow you access to a much more awakened, authentic, and deeply fulfilled you.  Upon this realization, any remaining infatuation, or preoccupation with happiness will then be laid to rest.  So, let’s go on a journey together, shall we?

 

“The pursuit of happiness?”  What if there is something deeper?

4 Comments to “The Pursuit of Happiness”

  1. By Tom, June 25, 2010 @ 2:08 am

    I totally agree about the infatuation with happiness. We chase that emotion like a little school girl only to find out it was only vapor. This is why so many wealthy people wind up saddened when they find out how lonely it really is at the top and that all that money doesn’t fill the void. I have been following the principle of contentment for some time. Much more balanced than chasing the happiness ghost.

  2. By Jason, June 25, 2010 @ 7:50 pm

    Dude – Nicely done … Cloud is cool … Love the happy / sad face … Actually found this doing an internet search … Let me know how the UK BT went … L&L

  3. By Bill Brakemeier, July 1, 2010 @ 12:56 pm

    I love the article Mark. The real key is for people to find a coach or guide like yourself to get at the deeper truths… I hope people will stop and take advantage of all your teachings and integral studies. We need to set you up for a talk at Integral Life in Boulder.

    When is your first public “call in” show going to start… Lots of searchers need your help

  4. By Clinton Kiehl, August 18, 2010 @ 2:52 pm

    Mark,
    As someone who is not ashamed to say I’ve spent many years pursuing this ideal of happiness in varying methods, I feel I can completely relate to your thoughts in this article! It hasn’t been until recently when I started thinking more about what exactly happiness means and how I want to experience it that things started becoming clearer. I began to realize that my search for happiness was, in reality, more just an attempt to evade sadness, hurt, and all the pain in the world around me. Once my perspective changed and I learned to embrace the sadness and try to discover what truly made me happy, my life began taking a very different direction. I’ve since learned to balance all aspects of my life including sadness with happiness and it is only through this balance, that the path before me has begun to clear.
    Clint
    Reiki Master

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